Let me back up.
She was so sweet and so warm and expressed love for her community. She didn’t want to put up a fence and said multiple times that she understood why people came to take photos in front of her home. This proposed gate was becoming inevitable for her and her neighbors’ safety.
Through tears, she said that it wasn’t her hope to gate the house but that “what was beautiful in the late 19th century is unfortunately in need of more protection in our century and in our time.
I hoped for literally decades that this would pass, but at this point, I think even someone as stubborn as I am has to admit that this isn’t going away…
I wanted to do something that would add to the beauty of the front, not just look like a barrier…
This is home to three families. Take all the pictures you wish standing on the street, but please don’t climb into our space and into our windows.“
One participant was Christina Conroy from the Victorian Society of New York, who supported installation of the gate. Christina talked about how NYC stoops are simultaneously private and public spaces.
She shared that the Victorian Society of New York typically opposes the addition of gates on stoops as they “betray [their] semi-public nature.” Still, they are willing to make an exception in this instance due to the “extraordinary fame of Sex and the City…[which] has turned this townhouse and, more specifically, this stoop into an entertainment landmark and has completely obliterated any sense of its privacy.”
She continued, “This is one of the most egregious situations when it comes to personal property being attacked all day, every day.
People climb all of the stoops on the street. They will climb over [Barbara’s] chain that is there. They will go up to the top. I have yelled at people, I have spoken to people, I have been nice to people. I have been threatened. People have threatened to punch me in the face.
[People] feel so entitled to this piece of private property. I don’t think it’s actually coming across how severe the situation is.
So please give your full support to Barbara for her application.”
There was something so community-affirming that at this moment when Barbara’s right to privacy was being devalued and minimized by people who didn’t even know her, it was a stranger who decided to tune in and stand up for her right to privacy.
Afterward, I went up to Barbara just to say congratulations, and to my surprise, she embraced me in a warm hug. She seemed so relieved to be able to reclaim even a small amount of her privacy.
So I jumped on the subway and headed to 66 Perry Street.
As I was taking photos of the above signage, a man started filming me at relatively close range.
I asked him to please stop, to which he replied, “Oh, it’s for Channel 7.”
There was something meta and almost poetic about my own right to privacy being ignored while I was researching a story about someone else’s right to privacy. It was as if even being in the general vicinity of this famed townhouse stripped passersby of their autonomy. And worst of all, I wasn’t sure I was any different, seeing as I had just taken a photo of strangers myself. Of course, it was much further back, and I blurred out the only visible face, but it did make me feel weird about the whole thing.
Is it a big deal? In one sense, not really. I wasn’t doing anything I’d regret having memorialized.
But also, in a larger sense, it did feel like a big deal. When did I lose my right to privacy? When did Barbara? When did the people I had photographed myself? I don’t have an answer to these questions, but in an increasingly online world, they’re worth considering.
I can’t imagine they would stand in the way of another New York woman’s right to some peace and privacy.
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