Lily Gladstone Says They Might Be Demisexual In A New Interview About Their Sexuality

“One of the big things that tipped me to my queerness is I don’t have the draw to motherhood the way a lot of women have.”
Lily — who uses she/they pronouns — is currently doing press for their new movie The Wedding Banquet, and in an interview with the Times, they opened up about what might be the changing nature of their sexuality.

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“Lived experience is the important thing, what the hardships you’ve had to face are,” Lily said in the interview while reflecting on the film’s casting of queer actors to play queer characters. They then went on to specify that they identify as “queer,” “pansexual,” and “straight.”

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“I can’t put a label on it,” she said. “One of the big things that tipped me to my queerness is I don’t have the draw to motherhood the way a lot of women have. There was a period of my life when I thought I might be asexual because I had no sexual attraction to anybody.”
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“I had a romantic attraction to everybody but no sexual desire. Then the word ‘demisexual’ came into play, where it’s, like, I don’t feel sexual stirring at all unless I actually care about this person, no matter who they are.”
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Cleveland Clinic defines demisexuality as someone who “only [feels] sexual attraction to someone after they’ve formed a strong emotional bond with them. Compared to the general population, most people who are demisexual rarely feel sexual attraction. Some have little to no interest in sexual activity.”
According to the interviewer, Lily went on to say that they think demisexuality is a “better fit” for how they identify. She also wouldn’t specify whether they’re currently in a relationship.
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